Thursday, July 16, 2015

Navigating Online Dating (Mini-series, episode 2)



“What that Profile is REALLY Saying!” 

     This post will give a few hints about online dating profiles and how to interpret what they are REALLY saying.  **I may use the masculine pronoun but please know these rules apply to women as well!

     Profiles are the self- descriptions folks use to let you know all about them…supposedly.  And yes, once again, folks lie.  Or what they are really saying is hidden behind the words.  The following are a few signs to look out for when perusing people’s online dating profiles.  In this mini-series, you will also learn how NOT to write your own.  In fact, I can write a profile that will almost guarantee you will get at least 50% more POSITIVE hits than you currently are now, but that’s for later! Heehee!

Back to the tips…

1.        If a person starts his profile off with disclaimers, those very same disclaimers will manifest an issue within HIM eventually.  Example, if the profile says something to the effect of, “And if you are too stuck up or have a nasty attitude, stay away!”  ..Now, you may say, ok, that’s innocent enough, he’s just putting his preference out there”, HOWEVER, one reason a person gives disclaimers is because he has experienced this type of behavior SEVERAL times in the past.  Meaning, HE is doing something to make folks think they can get away with this behavior.  If the disclaimer speaks on “being stuck up”, it’s more than likely because someone didn’t want to “match” with him and he got upset (aka HIS issue)…in fact, SEVERAL someones.  Now, I can see if this happened a couple times, but putting out a disclaimer usually means more than two times.  Last example, if the disclaimer is “And before any guys try to holla at me, I’m not gay!”… uh huh, you get the picture.  

2.       When a person goes through great details to list all of his material things, he’s using “bling” as bait.  If that’s ok with you, go for it, but I can almost guarantee, somewhere in his profile, he will have a disclaimer about women using him for his money.

3.       I don’t know about you, but I would proceed very cautiously around a profile with MULTIPLE misspelled words and very bad grammar.  Enough said on that.  

4.       When you read the profile that says, “I’m a humble man, trying to make it in this world” or “I may not be there yet but I’m getting there” or something similar, that reads “No car, no job, and no home ownership”.   I’m not saying someone has to have a banging car, a large home and a nice back account but, at least at the age I’m at, he needs to have something to drive, a job to go to and a place to live…outside of his mama’s house!

5.       If the profile says, “Email me and I’ll tell you more”...and nothing else, that’s either a scam to get money out of you by talking to you off the site but via email OR it’s an undercover married man.  And I can bet there’s not going to be a picture on the profile either.  

6.       If you’re on a site where you can see “friends” of the person you’re interested in, check his friends list.  If all of his friends are of women in scantily clad clothing, he’s a wolf gathering his sheep.  

7.       And lastly, if the picture is of an unbelievably attractive male or female, and they are showing non-stop interest in you, PLEASE, this one time situation only, DO NOT talk yourself into believing you’re all that and what you’ve written in YOUR profile has moved someone to this point.  This is surely a scam!  And you will be out of your money in no time!!

     Well, that’s it for this tip topic for now.  I’m sure there are many other “clues” you can find in profiles, these are just a few that stands out.  You just have to keep your eyes open and use your head!  If your intuition speaks, LISTEN!  All shiny things aren’t gold!!  

     Next tip topic…”How to Spot the Married Folks”!  Toodles!

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